ENG 101
11/15/10
Dr.McCormick
CULTIVATING HAPPIER RELATIONSHIPS
By cultivating happier relationships you can encounter with new people and a happier way of living. Happiness in relationships can bring joy and much more fun into your life, love also contributes to have a happier relationship. Family and real love plays the most important role in cultivating a happier and healthier relationship. “Many people believe that the key to a successful relationship is finding the right partner” (Ben-Shahar 120). Cultivating good and happier relationships consists on spending quality time with your family and friends as much as possible.
Relationships can bring you many happy moments to your life but it can also bring you sad moments as well. Love can bring you happiness too, when you are in love that is the best feeling ever is like you have the whole world all for you and you only. Cultivating relationships allows you to interact more with your family and friends but it also gives you the opportunity of meeting new people. Ed Diener and Martin Seligman says “Having people about whom we care and who care about us to share our lives with--to share the events and thoughts and feelings in our lives--intensifies our experience of meaning, consoles us in our pain, deepens our sense of delight in the world” (gtd. in Ben-Shahar 111). Love and respect is part of the ingredients for a happy relationship, the meaning of love is when you have that special person who is part of your life the one you cannot stop thinking of all day, is also when you are willing to give what you don't have for only that one person who took over your whole existence.When we fall in love we tend to loose control because our mind and body are going through a new cycle where we only care and think about that person that we are in love with. There is also unconditional love is the foundation of a happier relationship which gives you love but not spec ting nothing in return from that person in another words is like loving someone under no conditions and that is actually what makes you happy. “We are taught that falling in love with someone is about following our heart, not our mind ---that love, by definition, is inexplicable, mystical, beyond reason” (Ben-Shahar 113). Satisfaction and attraction can also be confused thinking that what you feel for a person is love when in reality is not, this is more likely to happen when you often see someone and it caught your attention but maybe is just because you like the way that person dresses up or because you admire the way that person handle themselves in certain situations.
Quality time means when you and your love ones and friends spend time together in a good and healthy environment like in a nice park around your community in which you can enjoy nature and enjoy each other like real family among with friends. Love requires sacrifices and endurance in order to grow strong and be able to stay together forever loving each other. “Even within a relationship in which partners love each other and want to be together, happiness can be undermined by the belief that sacrifice is a synonymous with love---that the greater the sacrifice, the deeper the love” (Ben-Shahar 117). There are many things you can do to have with your family in a park, as an example, you can make a nice beautiful picnic where everybody can enjoy themselves. Kids can play in the park such as riding their bike which is a great exercise that helps you free your mind and spirit in order words exercising is the best workout when you to the park; the kids could run all over back and forth just the way they love to play and run by letting the fresh air through their body when their body temperature is very high. Moreover kids can play different sports such as volleyball, basketball, handball and also to the swimming pool while the family is interacting with each other and also getting to know new people in the area.
The family usually get together to talk about old times and good memories they also talk about sad memories as well because is part of every human being. As Ed Diener and Martin Seligman says “Spending meaningful time with friends, family, or romantic partners was necessary (though not by itself sufficient ) for happiness” (gtd. in Ben-Shahar111). Relationships between family members can be very interesting and specially in a picnic at a nice park which can be a very efficient source of entertainment for the family and friends as well; this is the perfect place where you can interact with the community: their neighbors, their friends from school, their colleagues from work or from college. Another thing you can do when you go to the park is to reminisce on your childhood with your family, discuss all the things each one of them used to do as a child many years ago, I believe that this moments are worthless because is real quality time with your family and you are building a very strong bond with each other. A family reunion, where you all meet up and have a good time talking or dancing with the rhythm of some nice music, for example, spanish music; bachata, merengue, salsa, regueton and all kind of music.
Finally, I can say that my family is very important to me as well as my lovely husband. By cultivating happier relationships we can accomplish a brighter future, by being able to spend time with our family members and with our love ones as well as with friends. Love and perseverance can cultivate a happy and long lasting relationship.
*Works Cited*
Ben-Shahar, Tal. HAPPIER. New York: Mc Graw Hill, 2009.Print.
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